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True Self

Being true to self came to mind as a chapter for this book when trying to visualize a Roman Soldier trying to be a priestess in a temple.  Trying to visualize the priestess robbing the hero of his victory by sacrificing herself to the sea monster herself;  making her the hero instead of the soldier.  It changes up the story TOO much if you try to be something you are not.  Being true to yourself doesn’t mean abandon your actual skill sets and talents in this life. Being true to yourself challenges you to embrace your true inner most desires and heart-sourced talents that let you shine  and bleed into this world pure light.  Nothing can stop that force. That train of universal talent that you are in touch with or resounds within you naturally.  It may not make you a million dollars, but you’ll feel like a million bucks!

  • Don’t jip yourself of explicit joy by trying to be something you are not!
  • Don’t’ be too hard on yourself for not knowing.(what that should be).

It’s worth the investment of time and energy, concentration and quiet, to check in with self.  Even if it’s just once in a while.  Try to find 5 minutes of peace and quiet, and use it constructively.  Try to remember the feeling of being excited about what you USED TO WANT to be (when you grew up)! You don’t have to do those things as career move choices, but get in touch with those talents to return to self and a sense of purpose.

example:  see Scott Lawlor and this “hobby” he has adopted.  This should be full time passion, right?  When you have this kind of talent?

 

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Excuses

People tend to fall back on complaining. It is one of those negative repetitive habits that are almost unbreakable. It comes so natural and it is so neutral – a subject and arena of existence. Complaining tends to be something we can all agree on. No matter the complaint, we bring it up, only if others will agree with us. This makes the choice to complain pretty base, immature and unimaginative. If you could pinpoint the problem and solve it, or bring up the underlying cause to the problem, or comically reduce the stress, that’s mature, responsible and grown up. But to just complain, can get pretty old. Even to those around you who appear to be agreeing with you.

Take it upon yourself to take the high road, be big and achieve greatness in this situation. Resist the urge to agree with a complainer to start. If you can resist to complain yourself, that is greatness.

One of the first steps in acquiring peace, joy and rest in your life is to not continuously fall into bad habits. Start with this one. It could take years to recognize the triggers for the complaints and the outcomes of those rages. If it is just a bad habit, STOP IT!

If you need motivation or intention inserted into the decision to not complain, visit our worksheets and workshops at http://www.tweakingrelationships.com

 

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Cheaper to keep her?

It is thought, the costly part of divorce is, the divorce costs, splitting monies and sharing income “literally”.  However, the cost HE pays in the exit of the wife out the front door are these services he’d have to hire to replace her.

Chauffer/ valet – cleaning and maintenance of the vehicles(oil changes and car washes.  Pulling out the fast food trash, lunch boxes muddy shoes, yesterday’s change of clothes… A professional getting paid doesn’t have the pain -in -the- rear or the level of “cleaning out the car” as a mom.   Parking, organizing the garage.  Sweeping and mopping and decoarting the garage so it’s a pleasant place to go .  Making the garage and parking arrangement smooth, transitional and functional.  WALK THROUGH AS THEY SAY.

How busy is your week after your husband gets a wild hair to spend “the weekend in the garage”? 

Butler – $50-110k /year.  depending on the weight of their duties and how many subordinates they manage.

Ever wondered?  Look it up!  

Housekeeper – clean house, laundry, change sheets, dust, vacuum, keep schedule for family, cook, meal plan, grocery shopping, popcorn clean-up, etc.

laundry maid – this wonderful civilian could return to her own private life at the end of a busy day, but is happy to turn a load or two daily for you to help you to stay on top of dirty socks.

Personal Chef– the reason he has to afford this individual is because his wife usually caters to his specific needs, wants and requirements.  She does not force him to eat the macaroni and cheese and hot dogs she made the kids for dinner.  But surprisingly enough, he’d be happy to have that too!  Once in a while a man does just want a peaunut butter and jelly sandwich.

So, for all the women out there who accomplish these tasks (daily) and can’t feel the gratitude, feel free to remind him once in a while what yoru “free” services aren’t costing him. 

And trust me!  This is exactly why divorce is not an option!

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Compassionate Communication

Compassionate Communication causes us to take a step back.  Frees us from having to be so heavily buried in the moment we can’t see our way out.  Allows us to take the higher road because we chose to treat the customer service rep like someone we knew in a past life.  Just sit and observe and on a higher level, be forgiving and compassionate and praying, that in anyway,  you ever harmed this person you will be forgiven.  By the end of the communication, they may be apologizing to you ! Consider the past, present and future effects of our reactions in communication.

When regulating current behavior for future results, it helps to be calm in the moment.

We may ask ourselves, why do I care?  Why should I care how the other person feels?  They don’t care (how I feel /what I want).

When we take the time to invest in the relationship, (especially with our own children -these are life long relationships) we change our perception of the moment.  When you look back, what does that look like? 

This moment now is the one you will be looking back on.  What do you want it to look like?

Into the future, as close as tomorrow, will your action/reaction RIGHT NOW, be one you look back on and don’t have to question, “Did I do the right thing?”

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Being ok with who you are

 

I'm ok...Being ok with who YOU are!

I’m ok…Being ok with who YOU are!

Sitting  with SelfThat is a huge task to undertake.  Not an easy habit to pick up.  Speaking of habits, there are alot of habits, we’d have to break, to acquire a conversation, and a relationship with , Self. 

As with any habit, it requires repitition and a habit- forming practice.  Practicing when you can , where you can;  to know the whys and hows of what is going on around you.

This huge undertaking asks you to call on, tap into and be in touch with; your spritual center. 

To begin to practice living from a soul-based place.

See www.heathershouse.net  for skills and techniques to lead you to “center”.

 

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