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You can't doing everything everyday!

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Every opportunity is a new opportunity to be the bigger, better you.  The more practice and experience you gain in making the most of every moment, every interaction, every confrontation, the more comfortable you’ll be in your new skin.  The more obvious petty moments sound. The more obvious petty people are. The more obvious that everything is a petty ccomplaint.

When you recognize the connectivity of it all, the more petty our daily bumbles seem.

The grander life is.

The grander our purpose is.

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Pipe Dreams

Obviously, there is a huge difference between “pipe dreams” and realizing or manifesting soul purpose.  When you feel it, know it, and are living it, there is no turning back; no being wrong about it.

Follow a pipe dream first, as practice. (if you have the time).   Learn the curves, hurdles and ins-and-outs of making something happen out of nothing.  See how hard it is.  Experience that resistance, the negative feedback and lack of time allowable.  That’s how you know it’s not life purpose.  By not coming naturally, authentically, with assistance, support, positive feedback and an incredible amount of support that just seemingly appears out of thin air.   People come out of the woodwork. People you begin to meet that are connections in the field of interest. The difference is to be felt and experienced, so you know you are doing the right thing. The thing that feels right.  More than filling a void of boredom or escapism, it explodes out from inside of you.

Letting your inner child come out and play with the fire trucks, hammers, tools; your true purpose may reveal itself.  Following an old pipe dream or picking up a special or new hobby, allows time to concentrate and look inward, while hiding behind the work.  Whether it be exercise, an experiment in the basement, a project on line.  Searching for purpose requires quiet time alone.  In these moments of catering to your soul and listening to spirit, you can have the conversation, with self, about what your dreams are trying to tell you.

Quiet time; or concrete, dedicated time; on a “hobby” lets us hear about the action to take, while alert and awake, uninterrupted by the noise of the world.  Wake up from the humdrum of the daily grind, and get into your workshop; whether it’s the garage, the garden, the tennis court, the golf field, or your daily run.

Hobby takes our mind off the mundane.  Move it forward into life purpose; with dedicated thought and conversation with self.

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What dreams are made of

Using dream analysis to define your life purpose can help overcome daily battles/struggles.  Using simple dream techniques can help you hear your inner voice.  Connecting with dream characters or just trying to remember the last seconds of your dream upon waking can cause connection to self.  Hearing or seeing dream images can help identify with source. In your dream state you can fight the battles you can’t fight or don’t fight in real life.

Intentionally attempting to work with and bring forth dream truths, sets us on a journey of seeking clues and symbols.  Paying attention to our inner self and asking the tough questions.

Dreams bring to the surface issues that could be dealt with in waking life.  Your subconscious is allowing and bring it forward, asking you, the conscious mind, “Is this right?  Am I seeing this right?”.  You begin to recognize symbols and clues that lead to the questions such a,s should you be having a baby, right now?  Is this the right man for you in your life?  A storm is coming; are common themes in intense dream scenarios.  Being prepared is bracing your self in real life for real life happenings.  This is a very safe way to pursue your inner workings and your inner life and open up a dialogue with self…by recognizing and acknowledging dream cues.

Your dreams deserve dream analysis.  Looking at the message from the subconscious is a communication in the full circle loop of who you are, who have become, where you have come from and where you are going.  Your dreams are going to be honest with you about what you want.  What you don’t want. What need.  What you don’t need…  Dreams will question you ~ the dreamer, about how your current life is affecting what you; actually want out of what you are actually getting.   There are so many cases of dream analysis proving to the dreamer that the subconscious questions their work, and their work-status, and their co-workers, and their position in the workforce, with that group.   ~  In a dream, it is going to be a ship, a boat, a sinking ship, a ship on FIRE! A boat like ferry, or a boat like a yacht.  You getting along with the crew or the crew trying to kill you .  These are vital pieces of information for survival in the workforce!   Recognizing cues and waking up with a purpose, or staunch memory of what was just dreamed, is imperative to soul’s growth.  A resounding, pleasant, happy shrill will come from the subconscious~ for you paying attention to it once in a while!

Look at what your dreams are telling you.  They are telling you how your current life is affecting you soul’s existence.

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True Self

Being true to self came to mind as a chapter for this book when trying to visualize a Roman Soldier trying to be a priestess in a temple.  Trying to visualize the priestess robbing the hero of his victory by sacrificing herself to the sea monster herself;  making her the hero instead of the soldier.  It changes up the story TOO much if you try to be something you are not.  Being true to yourself doesn’t mean abandon your actual skill sets and talents in this life. Being true to yourself challenges you to embrace your true inner most desires and heart-sourced talents that let you shine  and bleed into this world pure light.  Nothing can stop that force. That train of universal talent that you are in touch with or resounds within you naturally.  It may not make you a million dollars, but you’ll feel like a million bucks!

  • Don’t jip yourself of explicit joy by trying to be something you are not!
  • Don’t’ be too hard on yourself for not knowing.(what that should be).

It’s worth the investment of time and energy, concentration and quiet, to check in with self.  Even if it’s just once in a while.  Try to find 5 minutes of peace and quiet, and use it constructively.  Try to remember the feeling of being excited about what you USED TO WANT to be (when you grew up)! You don’t have to do those things as career move choices, but get in touch with those talents to return to self and a sense of purpose.

example:  see Scott Lawlor and this “hobby” he has adopted.  This should be full time passion, right?  When you have this kind of talent?

 

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Achieve Balance with Opposites

Opposites Attract and Achieve balance.  A happy middle-ground.

If you are a watcher and tend to lack “taking action” – you may need to practice DOING, in order to achieve change.

A slight change in your outlook on life, the outlook of the room, the outlook on dinner, could be doing something you don’t normally do.  Act instead of observe.

On the flip side, if you are always taking action and a take charge kinda gal (or guy), warn everyone around you that you are trying something new in the month of (your choice of change).  You are going to sit back and listen at dinner, let your husband order for you (Ohhhhhh!)  and maybe see what the children want to do on a Saturday rather than have a plan.

Practice being uncomfortable with the opposite of your normal for a set amount of time.  Go back to your old ways!  But they won’t fit so well, and you will have a new outlook on life.

Try opposite day for a month and see how it changes your perspective on life and people around you.  You will experience strangers, co-workers and family members in a whole new way.

This technique  (once a year, once in a while…) opens your eyes and sets new highs for old lows.  It’s fun and adventuresome.

Feel free share your learning curve, picture proof or your story, here.  Fresh insight using this technique can be shockingly amazing!

Note:  Change is a chapter in my book Compassionate Communication.

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Milk Before Meat

My book is for everyone!  In all places at all times!

Ever find books so far over your head, you wonder, who reads this stuff?  That is what concerns me about the millions of people out there who don’t read at all, much less,  pick up a book for help.  Millions of people who need direction, assistance, guidance, don’t dare pick up a book that they get lost in in the first two chapters.

I would lose sleep at night contemplating that someone would give up on my book before they got to the end. Avid readers can read my book(s) in an hour!  My particular dose of medicine caters to piece meal and baby-steps methodology.  So though, one may appreciate chapter 2, they may not need chapter 7 for their particular stage of growth.  When they get to chapter 7 as their favorite, they are past or have mastered, chapter 2! Aphrodite-aphrodite-21787817-79-120

If you are curious about the simplicity of my message, check out COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION: ( link on picture)—->

Know that it is not written for my colleagues per se, as it is preaching to the choir, as they say.  It is written for the customer waiting in the waiting room, the over-worked, over-tired commuter, the teachers lounge, for easy lunch time reading, the yoga  practitioners before and after a healthy practice, the yoga instructors needing a quick lesson for today.

My message is to reach millions who need loving kindness laid out simply, in easy to achieve steps, with simple attainable goals, double spaced for easy reading and hopefully life long study.

Yoga Instructors, preachers, Christian soldiers, teachers.  Just about every human being needs these simple steps to begin loving kindness with thy neighbor.  Knock yourself out!  PLEASE use it to help those who might not quite “get it”!- yet.

Excellent read for:

  • social workers
  • as well as relaying lessons and methods to anger management clientele.
  • Excellent fod for meditations
  • and surviving family situations.
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Excuses

People tend to fall back on complaining. It is one of those negative repetitive habits that are almost unbreakable. It comes so natural and it is so neutral – a subject and arena of existence. Complaining tends to be something we can all agree on. No matter the complaint, we bring it up, only if others will agree with us. This makes the choice to complain pretty base, immature and unimaginative. If you could pinpoint the problem and solve it, or bring up the underlying cause to the problem, or comically reduce the stress, that’s mature, responsible and grown up. But to just complain, can get pretty old. Even to those around you who appear to be agreeing with you.

Take it upon yourself to take the high road, be big and achieve greatness in this situation. Resist the urge to agree with a complainer to start. If you can resist to complain yourself, that is greatness.

One of the first steps in acquiring peace, joy and rest in your life is to not continuously fall into bad habits. Start with this one. It could take years to recognize the triggers for the complaints and the outcomes of those rages. If it is just a bad habit, STOP IT!

If you need motivation or intention inserted into the decision to not complain, visit our worksheets and workshops at http://www.tweakingrelationships.com

 

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Change

Change can be frightening in any order, at any level.  Changing what you have for breakfast?  Forget about it! Think about how much you are not going to change THAT!   But it could change your whole world.  Avocado on wheat toast this morning?  No one needs to know about it, no one may ever know…but… they will see a change in you.

1. Because you have a confused look on your face all morning like, “Why did I do that”?

2.  You have more energy so you are accomplishing more this morning.

3. You look at that guy eating a doughnut and pity him.  4. You might even be nicer to that guy today because you feel so sorry for him.  (Because he didn’t get an avocado on his toast this morning).

But overall, there is change.  And little change can have big results.  I think that’s why people resist, question and doubt its process.  Skeptical and hesitant are we toward that weird new thing that could change our lives!!!  Even if it’s wearing flats instead of heels.  You could have an entirely different day. Start small with stuff people can’t see.  They may not see the process or the action, but they will see the outcome, the results.  And so will you !

 

 

  • add prayer
  • add a goal
  • add approach to conversation
  • Look for resuts.  
  • Sit and watch. Practice Observer.

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