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Excuses

People tend to fall back on complaining. It is one of those negative repetitive habits that are almost unbreakable. It comes so natural and it is so neutral – a subject and arena of existence. Complaining tends to be something we can all agree on. No matter the complaint, we bring it up, only if others will agree with us. This makes the choice to complain pretty base, immature and unimaginative. If you could pinpoint the problem and solve it, or bring up the underlying cause to the problem, or comically reduce the stress, that’s mature, responsible and grown up. But to just complain, can get pretty old. Even to those around you who appear to be agreeing with you.

Take it upon yourself to take the high road, be big and achieve greatness in this situation. Resist the urge to agree with a complainer to start. If you can resist to complain yourself, that is greatness.

One of the first steps in acquiring peace, joy and rest in your life is to not continuously fall into bad habits. Start with this one. It could take years to recognize the triggers for the complaints and the outcomes of those rages. If it is just a bad habit, STOP IT!

If you need motivation or intention inserted into the decision to not complain, visit our worksheets and workshops at http://www.tweakingrelationships.com

 

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Change

Change can be frightening in any order, at any level.  Changing what you have for breakfast?  Forget about it! Think about how much you are not going to change THAT!   But it could change your whole world.  Avocado on wheat toast this morning?  No one needs to know about it, no one may ever know…but… they will see a change in you.

1. Because you have a confused look on your face all morning like, “Why did I do that”?

2.  You have more energy so you are accomplishing more this morning.

3. You look at that guy eating a doughnut and pity him.  4. You might even be nicer to that guy today because you feel so sorry for him.  (Because he didn’t get an avocado on his toast this morning).

But overall, there is change.  And little change can have big results.  I think that’s why people resist, question and doubt its process.  Skeptical and hesitant are we toward that weird new thing that could change our lives!!!  Even if it’s wearing flats instead of heels.  You could have an entirely different day. Start small with stuff people can’t see.  They may not see the process or the action, but they will see the outcome, the results.  And so will you !

 

 

  • add prayer
  • add a goal
  • add approach to conversation
  • Look for resuts.  
  • Sit and watch. Practice Observer.

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